Most of all I want to be a good parent, that is my main goal, everything I do is built on this wish. Probably people have different ideas about what being a good parent means and probably even though most people like to be a good parent they sometimes priorities their life differently. I think that to be a good parent you have to be a good person, and that can be hard sometimes. I want to be grateful, thankful, kind, patient, graceful and fill my mind only with happy thoughts. It´s hard I can be frustrated and angry from time to time. It´s human nature. Now I´m fighting a big battle, there is a person in my life that is taking away all my energy, a person that constantly makes me frustrated and angry. I´ve tried to forgive this person many times, it´s hard to forgive harsh words, now I don´t want to forgive anymore. It´s a dilemma, we are not talking at moment and in a way that´s a big relief from the constant negativity but on the other hand I feel guilty, I feel guilty for not trying to patch things up, forgive and forget. I honestly don´t know what to do. Some people say you should stay away from negative, energy-suckers and surround you with people that make you feel good. Others say it´s best to forgive and forget....I can´t do both. As soon as I would make things right, this person would be in my life on a daily basis, in my home, eating with me, watching TV, asking me for endless favors. I can´t be the happy person I want to be for my kids around her and I can´t be the good person I want to be for my kids if I don´t forgive. Her last words to me were "you´re just a crazy bitch".Yes, it´s my mother-in-law. My goal for January it to be a better person. Help!